Change Does Not Start With Blame

The Power of Choice

Everything we do is based on the choices we make.

Not our parents.
Not our siblings.
Not our past relationships.
Not our job, the economy, the weather, an argument, or our age.

Just us.

I’ve come to understand this deeply—not just in my work, but in my life. Every decision I’ve made, every habit I’ve broken, every shift I’ve pursued… it’s all been my choice. And it’s not always easy to admit that. It’s easier to blame. Easier to point outward. But the truth is: we are the architects of our own experience.

I’ve quit smoking. I’m working on quitting alcohol. I’ve changed my diet, my exercise, my self-talk. Not perfectly—but intentionally. Because I know that if I want a different life, I have to make different choices.

And the same applies to our homes.

We choose where we live.
We choose what we tolerate.
We choose what we walk away from—and what we walk toward.

So if something in your life—or your home—feels misaligned, ask yourself:
What am I choosing?
And what could I choose instead?

Because change doesn’t start with blame.
It starts with ownership.
And ownership is the first step toward freedom.